I Blame My Dead Mother; What's Your Excuse?

Updated: Dec 31, 2019

Well, I’m a little behind on my writing. I seem to have had so many other things going on that I haven’t had the time or the desire to sit down and write a blog post. I have been unmotivated, to say the least. I’m not sick. Maybe just sad.

My mother passed away November 2nd, 2015. I found the last several weeks to be extremely hard. I finally shut her bank account. I really should’ve done it months ago, but I couldn’t bring myself to drive past her apartment where she died.

It’s not much of an excuse, I realize that. There are others with far more pressing concerns. I’m lucky that I stay at home and I don’t have an actual job that I have to go to and be responsible for. However, I still should’ve been doing my job. Yes, writing a novel is a job. Writing a blog, messing around with social media accounts, are all part of my writing job.

I may not actually be paid for it, YET, but it is none the less my job. If I had a regular job that I had to go to every day, I might have been able to take a few days off, but I would’ve been expected to do my work at some point.

I believe to be a successful writer you have to set goals. Not just random goals, achievable goals that will propel your writing career forward. Did you pay attention to that statement?

The goals you set for yourself and your writing, should propel your writing career forward. (Click here to Tweet)

If I am doing things that do that, then I am on the road to success. If not, then I am spinning my wheels. I want my books to be a success. I would like to make a living writing fiction books. That is my number one priority. So everything I do from this point forward, as it pertains to my writing, will be for that goal.

Jane Friedman (lover her stuff) has a blog post about this very thing. Setting achievable goals. I encourage you to read it. It opened my eyes to structuring my activities towards achieving my goal of making a living writing fiction.

Because I am not published yet, (either Indie or traditional) I haven't thought of myself as a writer. I mean why should I? If I tell someone I am a writer they ask, are you published, where can I buy your book?, who published your book? UHH? I didn't know what to answer because all the answers were no, nowhere, and no one. Yikes, not good answers. However, I have accomplished so much. Just because I am not published yet doesn't make me less successful.

Don't fall into the same trap I did. If you think like that, it becomes harder to treat your writing seriously. I now schedule two (minimum) times a week that I blog. I am on my twitter (@victoriampatton) and Pinterest accounts daily. I ordered my business cards. Sounds ridiculous, but it was a giant step. Because when I hand that to someone, it clearly says I am a writer. Now when they ask me if I am published I will answer, almost. I am looking for an agent, but I am leaning towards Indie Publishing. I have two completed books, the third in the series is half way done, and I have a novella. I have designed my covers, (in case I go the Indie route.) That's a lot.

I am proud of what I have done. I accomplished all this in two years. Wow! Two fucking years and I have all that done so far. Kudos to myself. You need to congratulate yourself. Boast in what you have accomplished. Be proud of what you are trying to do as a writer. Hell be proud of what you are doing even if it isn't writing.

Don't let what everyone else considers successful define your success. (Click to Tweet)

I want to encourage you as a writer to embrace where ever you are in your writing process. If you have just finished your first novel or if you have just finished the outline for your first novel, embrace it. Where ever you are, EMBRACE it.

I write crime fiction horror, thriller, and paranormal novels. My time in the Coast Guard and my degree in Forensic Chemistry helps me create fantastic stories.

If I'm not writing, I am binge watching Netflix and probably drinking whiskey.

You can find me on Pinterest, Amazon, and Facebook.



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